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How To Embrace Mom Guilt

November 10, 2021 By Kari Leave a Comment

It’s alive + well and not going anywhere. Let’s chat about how to embrace mom guilt! My experience,  awesome resources, and a few tactics on how to deal. 

As always, I want to hear from you! Share your thoughts and stories in the comment section at the bottom of this post. 

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Mom guilt (or parent guilt..let’s be honest, dads are in on this too) is here to stay. I say this with confidence because I’ve had mine since Wyatt was in my tummy and he’s six now. For a long time, I tried to push it out of my mind but, for me, it’s all-consuming. Finally surrendering to that, I knew I needed some ways to deal with it.

I have mom guilt almost every day. In the baby days, it was mostly over my anxiety of being a new parent and feeling guilty about passing that onto or our son. “Oh great. He’s going to grow up filled with anxiety”! I’ve had big mom guilt over my two worlds- being a stay-at-home parent and chasing after my career and dreams. Guilty for spending too much time working and not enough time being a mom, and vice versa. Not wanting to miss a moment and feeling so guilty when I felt I had. These days the guilt comes mostly from not handling situations properly. Flying off the handle or losing my cool. I work really hard to be a calm parent but you know how it is. Sometimes the situation gets the best of you.

Living it that guilt…staying there for too long is no good but pretending it doesn’t exist is worse. Wherever your parent guilt is coming from, here are a few ways that may help you deal with it.

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We can do a thousand things right as a parent but why is it that one moment we’re not our best is what we hold onto? Here’s how to embrace the mom guilt:

  • Recognize these feelings are totally normal. I can bet every single parent on the planet has experienced this at least once.
  • Write down beautiful parenting moments and wins in your phone. When the guilt creeps in go read that list and remind yourself the ‘I’m a bad parent’ vibe is total b-s.
  • Realize you have guilt because you care so much because you love your kids so much. Evidence that you’re already an amazing parent.
  • If you’re feeling guilty about doing something that takes you away from your kids – explain it to them. Share with them what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. “Mommy is going to go to work. I love my job so much and it allows us to do cool things together as a family!” Or, “I’m sorry I’m missing movie night but mommy has a chance to see her friends and it makes me so happy to spend time with them. Just like you with your friends!” I truly believe this sets such a great example.

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Parenting Resources

You may have heard me talk about these over on Instagram but here they are again. I highly recommend:

  • This Book: ‘You’re A F*cking Awesome Mom’ by Leslie Anne Bruce (affiliate link). Self-empowerment resources and all the realness when it comes to the chaos of parenting.
  • This Podcast: ‘We Can Do Hard Things’ hosted by Glennon Doyle and her sister Amanda. Many of the episodes are parenting-related. My favourite parenting quote came from one of those episodes: “Stop trying to be a better parent. Start focusing on being a better human and let them watch you.” Mind. Blown.

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I truly believe we gain so much from shared experiences. When I hear another parent validate or share a similar story relating to what I’m going through it helps me SO much! Just knowing you’re not alone in your feelings and experiences brings such comfort. Please share any thoughts, feelings, or stories in the comment section below. We would love to hear from you!

 

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It's been a rough past few weeks for our family, hence my absence online. Thank you so much for your messages of love, concern, and support. They mean so much to us. I know I share a lot with you on here, but I’m not going to get into details this time. Just know we're doing alright. Junebug is great (and kicking and rolling around non-stop!), Wyatt is awesome per usual, and Ryan and I are rock solid.

I had to take a break from work. My main focus has always been (and will
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Social media can be a beautiful place where connection and inspiration happens. Unfortunately, it can also foster hurtful and harmful attacks. I’ve learned so much over these past few weeks, and have deeply reflected on my presence and future plans online. I’ll share more soon, but for now, I just wanted to check in, say a sincere thanks, and let you know we’re all good. ❤️
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🤰I’m playing catchup on some pregnancy blog posts but I wanted to make sure this was up, especially for those who have been following our journey. 

👉 Head on over to KariSkelton.com for ‘Pregnancy Q&A: The First Trimester’ where I get into all of it. Link is in my bio.

❔️Please ask any questions. That’s the whole reason why I share about this. I believe sharing our experiences and personal stories helps all of us feel less alone and often validates what we’re going through. 

(If you can believe it, I took a video of the exact moment I found out but it disappeared from my files. Poof! Gone.💨 Of all the videos to lose…. 🙈 But very happy to have this photo).

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You’re invited to pop down to the party between 11-5 to celebrate with us! 🎉There’s birthday torte, a whole bunch of perks, specialty tastings, and additional in-store giveaways, including a beautiful Camp Chef XT Wood Pellet Grill! 🙆‍♀️

To enter our $250 GC Giveaway:

👉 Make sure you follow me @kariskelton and @fresonbros.

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✨️ Bonus entry: Head to KariSkelton.com and leave a comment on my ‘Freson Bros. Turns One’ blog post (make sure to add your IG handle in that comment so we know who you are). 

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Lifestylist + Blogger: KariSkelton.com
Mom to Wyatt, Moses🐾 + Monroe🐾
Babe on the way! (06/22)
❤ @ryanjespersen
motherhood | style | recipes 👇

Kari Skelton | Motherhood
when you feel like you've hit your max bump but th when you feel like you've hit your max bump but there's still nine weeks to go. 😳

It's truly amazing what our bodies can do. 💛

#31weeks #sunsoutbumpsout #beachball
Life update. ❤ I’ll be keeping this piece of Life update. ❤

I’ll be keeping this piece of art forever. Wyatt painted this for me back in January, when I was isolated with Covid. I taped it up on the wall beside the bed during my stay in our guest room. If you zoom in, you’ll see me in the front with the big baby belly. (Wyatt calls me ‘big belly’ these days!)

Rainbows represent promise, hope, and new beginnings. 

It's been a rough past few weeks for our family, hence my absence online. Thank you so much for your messages of love, concern, and support. They mean so much to us. I know I share a lot with you on here, but I’m not going to get into details this time. Just know we're doing alright. Junebug is great (and kicking and rolling around non-stop!), Wyatt is awesome per usual, and Ryan and I are rock solid.

I had to take a break from work. My main focus has always been (and will
always be) protecting the peace, health, and well-being of our family unit. 

Social media can be a beautiful place where connection and inspiration happens. Unfortunately, it can also foster hurtful and harmful attacks. I’ve learned so much over these past few weeks, and have deeply reflected on my presence and future plans online. I’ll share more soon, but for now, I just wanted to check in, say a sincere thanks, and let you know we’re all good. ❤️
The moment I found out. September 22, 2021. I’ll The moment I found out. September 22, 2021. I’ll be honest - the first trimester wasn’t great. There were moments of joy (like this one) but it was filled with anxiety, scary moments, and a few hurdles. 

🤰I’m playing catchup on some pregnancy blog posts but I wanted to make sure this was up, especially for those who have been following our journey. 

👉 Head on over to KariSkelton.com for ‘Pregnancy Q&A: The First Trimester’ where I get into all of it. Link is in my bio.

❔️Please ask any questions. That’s the whole reason why I share about this. I believe sharing our experiences and personal stories helps all of us feel less alone and often validates what we’re going through. 

(If you can believe it, I took a video of the exact moment I found out but it disappeared from my files. Poof! Gone.💨 Of all the videos to lose…. 🙈 But very happy to have this photo).

#pregnancystories #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunites #Canadianblogger #Canadianmom
Contest Closed. Congrats to our winner @michelle_q Contest Closed. Congrats to our winner @michelle_quay! Thanks to all of you for entering! ❤

➡️ Giveaway! To celebrate @fresonbros first birthday tomorrow (Saturday, March 5), we’re giving away a $250 Freson Bros. GC! 🥳

You’re invited to pop down to the party between 11-5 to celebrate with us! 🎉There’s birthday torte, a whole bunch of perks, specialty tastings, and additional in-store giveaways, including a beautiful Camp Chef XT Wood Pellet Grill! 🙆‍♀️

To enter our $250 GC Giveaway:

👉 Make sure you follow me @kariskelton and @fresonbros.

👉 Like this post.

👉 tag some friends who would love this!

✨️ Bonus entry: Head to KariSkelton.com and leave a comment on my ‘Freson Bros. Turns One’ blog post (make sure to add your IG handle in that comment so we know who you are). 

*This giveaway is open to Canadian residents only and is in no way endorsed or supported by Instagram. The winner must be able to pick up the $250 gift card prize at Freson Bros. Edmonton 5139 Mullen Rd. Contest closes Friday, March 4 at 11:59 pm MST. The winner will be announced on this post before 9 a.m MST Saturday, March 5. 

🚨*PLEASE watch out for impersonation accounts that unfortunately sometimes pop up during giveaways. I will only reach out to you via DM from my account (@kariskelton) to confirm your win and then we’ll coordinate details via email only.
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