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Stealing Baby Names

October 19, 2017 By Kari 1 Comment

Are you a tad bit territorial over your kids’ names? I’ll be honest: I don’t want anyone having the same name as my kid. Now, I get that this is far from realistic but it comes from a good place.

When we were pregnant with Wyatt, there were a few friends and acquaintances also expecting at the same time. I would breathe a sigh of relief every time a baby announcement came and went without our chosen name being announced. So much thought and love goes into choosing what you’ll name your child, so I understand why this can be a touchy subject for some people (myself included). Perhaps you’re using a family name with special meaning, or maybe you and your spouse could only agree on one name and this was the one. To have someone else swipe “your” name can be really discouraging.

Why am I talking about this now? Well, friends of ours gave their beautiful baby boy a very unique name with an even more unique spelling. I’m talking UNIQUE. I had never heard of this name before. Several months later, an acquaintance of theirs posted a picture of her newborn boy on Instagram with the exact same name…and the exact same spelling. It was an obvious rip-off. This, my friends, takes some serious guts. Easier to pull off, obviously, with the more common, mainstream names, but with something so unique – c’mon. Our friends were gracious and wrote their congratulations on the posted photo (a comment that was never replied to), but they had to vent about it to us. While a tiny part of you is flattered someone loved “your” name so much, shouldn’t this person have spoken with you about it first? Shouldn’t they have asked or at least given you the heads up? “We love the name you picked so much and really feel connected to it. Would you mind if we used it too?” You might complain in private but I’m sure there are few people who would say no to this question. After some discussion with friends and pooling together our advice, here are a few potential scenarios and what to do about it.

If a close friend flat out steals your name: whether it’s before or after your baby was born, and you had told them this was “your” name, there needs to be a conversation. Wait until those pregnancy hormones have calmed down first, but if you value the relationship, chat about it before resentment sets in. Ask why they chose the name. Tell them it kind of bothers you. (Bring wine for this conversation.)

If an acquaintance steals your name: First, consider that it could be a total coincidence. Try to give the person the benefit of the doubt. Also, maybe they saw your name and really felt connected to it. It is likely coming from a good place. Also, remind yourself that you’re not really running in the same circles anyway, so there’s a slim chance of this being rubbed in your face on a daily basis.

If a family member uses a family name after you told them you were going to. Cut them out of your will. (Kidding.) Again, a conversation HAS to happen. If you still love the name and want to use it, you could consider it for a middle name, but give them the heads up.

Keep in mind, while a name is special to your kid’s identity, it’s their characteristics and little personalities that will make them who they are.

What do you think? Has this happened to you? I would love to know how you handled it!

 

 

Other parenting topics to check out:

Eating Together at the Table 

10 Parenting Time Savers

No More Birthday Presents?

xx

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  1. Judi Gray says

    October 20, 2017 at 2:09 pm

    Kari, the best thing to do is don’t tell anybody what names you are thinking of for your unborn child. That highly reduces the chance that someone will copy your unique name and/or unique spelling and everyone gets a lovely surprise when you tell them after the baby is born.

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Favourite features of the Bugaboo Fox Three! (chec Favourite features of the Bugaboo Fox Three! (check my stories for a few places to shop this on sale today).

We love this new and improved all-terrain stroller. We're out for walks a few times a day - with the dogs, school runs, shopping, etc. This one fits the bill for all of it!

- so easy to maneuver. It's seriously the smoothest ride ever. 
- 4-wheel spring suspension and large puncture-proof wheels let you glide over bumps and tight turns without disturbing babe.
- customizable colours 
- the bassinet has a great ventilation system to help babe regulate their natural body temperature.

📍 Save this reel, share with a friend or to your stories to help someone else out & follow @kariskelton for more everything motherhood.

#bugaboousa_partner

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#stroller #strollerreview #strollers #babymusthaves #newbornmusthaves
#beststroller
the litte things are truly the big things. 😭 F the litte things are truly the big things. 😭

Feeling so grateful today. So much love to you and yours. ❤️🙏

Merry Christmas!
@ryanjespersen 
#siblinglove
Everyone is looking! I cannot believe it! 🤣 @bl Everyone is looking! I cannot believe it! 🤣 @blakeloates working her special magic again. ❄️

Last one is a video of Noah and SC - totally adorable. 🎅

Two weeks until the big day! 🎅❤️
#santapics
#firstsantapic #familychristmasphoto #familypjs
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